"What does a healthy relationship look like? A good question in theory, but expert couples therapist Julie Menanno wants you to ask a slightly different one: What does a securely attached relationship feel like? The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, a groundbreaking guide to secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment style has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it also helps us understand ourselves in adult romantic relationships and is the closest science has come to making sense of these relationships. In Secure Love, Menanno tackles: Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over.The four attachment types, with exercises designed to help you understand your attachment style with your partner. How to improve communication in a relationship, including staying connected during conflict and prioritizing vulnerability -- rather than protectivity. "Instead of that, say this" suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in your relationship from a more productive and vulnerable stance. Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple's sex life and how to restore that sexual connection."--Page 2 of cover.